Unpacking Life with God for Children (LWGFC): Center Down

If you are tracking with us through the curriculum we are on the second bolded phrase in the lesson cycle: Center Down

Center Down is a Quaker phrase that essentially represents a process of quieting the body, mind and spirit. It is a space to remember, “Ah, Yes. I am a child of God.” In our increasingly loud, loud, loud world it’s a place of quiet.

Children? Quiet? Have I met children, seen children, or ever been a child?

Our assumption that children cannot be quiet is a false one. Remember back to that time we were standing in the kitchen and the children were playing in another room and all the sudden it fell quiet. We rushed into the other room to find our children “up to something.” They weren't necessarily quiet because they didn’t want us to hear instead they were absorbed, completely enthralled, in watching a spider creep across the floor, or a Lego structure built just right, or the grand masterpiece they have just finished creating on their baby brother in permanent marker.

Children can be quiet and reflective they just need something that is compelling to ponder.

Jesus is the place of quiet that we all need. The centering down space in LWGFC is an open, quiet space for Jesus to meet the children.

We open this space first by telling the body, “Hey this is different than normal.” One way to do that is to remove our shoes and leave all electronic at the door. A little bench inside the door helps to make this process quick and relatively painless. Invite the children to remove their shoes and tuck their electronic inside one shoe. Place them both under the bench. 

We create an environment that lends itself to quiet and invite the children into it with our presence.  

That environment might look like books and throw pillows. It might look like coloring pages and coloring pencils. It might look like finger labyrinths and quiet music. It might even look like teaching the children a breath prayer and breathing it with them.

The only must have requirement is an adult or two depending on how many children. As I mentioned in the last post, the children follow you. If you are resting in quiet with Jesus, they will rest in quiet with Jesus. If the teacher is up preparing or chatting with folks, or checking FB (guilty.) the children generally won’t Center Down.  I don’t know about you, but I could use a quiet space a few minutes, no more than 12-15 minutes, to “be” in the quiet with Jesus and his children.

A Few Tips: These are tips, suggestions—not law. Sometimes they work, sometimes not so much.

·      Rhythms take time to establish. You and the children might need a little time to get used to this slower, quieter pace. “Be still and know that I am, God,” doesn’t happen overnight. So give everyone (including yourself) a little grace. Begin with 5 minutes, then try 10, and so forth. But keep working on it don’t give up.

·      12-15 minutes is a guideline, not a deadline. We are teaching children, not curriculum. So if the children are really settling down into the quiet, stay there as long as you can. They may need it. You will be able to tell where they are if you are with them, sitting, coloring, resting in the quiet. Pay attention to both the children and the Spirit. Is She moving you on to Prayer Time (which we will talk about in the next blog post) or is She speaking to them in the quiet?

·      Children’s Books: Here are a few lovely ones that might be helpful during Center Down.

  • Psalm 23 by Tim Ladwig
  •  Glory by Nancy White Carlstrom and Debra Reid Jenkins
  •  The Blessing of the Beasts by Ethel Pochocki
  •  Journey to the Heart by Frank X. Jelenek and Ann Boyajian
  •  Owl Moon by Jane Yolen and John Schoenherr
  •  Granddad’s Prayers of the Earth by Douglas Wood and PJ Lynch
  •  Our Solar System by Ian Graham
  •  The Universe by Ian Graham
  •  And the two very best…. Images of God: For Young Children by Marie-Helene Delval and Barbara Nascimbeni and Psalms for Young Children by Marie-Helene Delval and Arno

·      Labyrinths can be found all over the Internet. Here is one example, http://www.relax4life.com/finger-labyrinths.html

  • Invite children into a conversation with God as they move their fingers. On their way into the center space invite the children to talk to God. To tell God about their week, what makes them happy, sad, or worried. Once they get to the center, breathe three deep breaths—One for the Father, One for the Son and One for the Holy Spirit. As the children move outward from the center invite them to listen for God to speak to them.

·      My opinion is that traditional children’s color pages are terrible. Full of stereotypes and mostly bad art. Try a few of these instead:

·      Breath Prayer for children:

  • Close your eyes. Breathe in and say, “Jesus.” Breathe out and say, “Loves me.”
  • Keep breathing “Jesus Loves me” until you know he is beside you. 

(Go ahead, you can try that now. It's good for adult souls too.) 

 

Background Notes for Teachers: Getting in on your life with God

For the next several weeks this blog is dedicated to unpacking Renovaré’s Life with God for Children curriculum. I hope to be able to provide some clarity, maybe some tips, suggestions, ideas and if the Spirit is willing and I’m not so hard headed, some wisdom too.

I had the great honor to be a public school teacher at Lincoln School #22 in Rochester, New York. The children, teachers, and administrators taught this very green twenty-five year old more life lessons than I can ever remember. (Sorry about that.)

It was here that I learned that children can spot a fake at fifty paces. If you don’t believe me try substitute teaching, which I did for about a year and I’m here to say those folks need to be paid more.

I’m not saying that substitute teachers are fakes; I’m saying they don’t have a permanent long-lasting stake in what happens in that classroom. Most really do love the children. Most are doing a great job, but they won’t be there day after day. Their lives aren’t interwoven with the children or the content. And the children know it.

For this reason, the lesson cycle in Life with God for Children (LWGFC) begins with Background Notes for Teachers.

You’ll notice it consists of page numbers from the Life with God Bible, which you can buy over at the Renovaré site. While the content within these pages do give a background to the story, there is more going on than background information. The pages also give the teacher ways to experience God and therefore grow in their own walk with God. It’s a space to grow in the abundant life that God has for them.

Is the Life with God Bible absolutely necessary? No, but it’s helpful. What is necessary is that every teacher is in a growing relationship with God. The curriculum is designed to engage both the children and adults in a life with God.

Outside of their time with the children, adults need to have ways they commune with God. Maybe it is reading the Bible, a daily prayer practice, living the Seasons of the Church, fasting, nature walks or worship. If you are looking for ways to go deeper in your life with God check out Richard Foster’s book Celebration of Discipline.

Inside of their time with the children, adults can cultivate a listening and learning heart by asking the question, “How is God connecting with me through these children?” I think Jesus was pretty clear when he said the children would lead us into his kingdom. (Matthew 19:14)

You, teacher have an amazing opportunity to meet Christ in the children. They will teach you things about God you never knew. They will teach you things about you, you didn’t want to know. (Sorry about that.) And things you hoped were true, but couldn’t believe until it came from a tiny person who smelled of Fruit Loops.

The bottom line is we miss out on our life with God if we’re not “smokin’ what we’re selling.”[1] If we aren’t leaning into the abundant life that God promises, if we aren’t learning to live our lives with God, the children won’t either.

As much as we may try to fake it, children know. And they will follow.

 

 

May all that is unforgiven in you

Be released.

 

May your fears yield

Their deepest tranquilities.

 

May all that is unlived in you

Blossom into a future

Graced with love.

 

-John O’Donohue, To Bless the Space Between Us, 97. 

 

[1] This is a phrase I have heard over and over from my Grandmother. It’s a jaunty way to say, “live what we teach.” It in no way endorses smoking. And while I live in Colorado, we don’t smoke the flora either.  

Life with God for Children or With Squared

Ten years ago my desire was to write a curriculum I would want to use. One that would foster and feed the relationship between children and God.

As I began to imagine how to structure this enormous project, I had some specifics in mind, things I had learned in my years with children and my years with working with curriculum. As an educator, I have seen lots of curriculum. Public schools have a tendency to blame curriculum for their problems and therefore change them quite frequently. (As do churches, but I’ll save that for another discussion.) In addition, I have written curriculum.

There is a temptation for adults to train children like they are cyborgs. (Forgive me for my sci-fi terminology.) We think we are beginning with a blank slate that is passively moldable under our influence. Rather than crack open the “nature verses nurture” debate, let me just say that it’s both and more. Children come installed with their own temperament, developmental pace, and even with their own imprint of the image of God. As they grow, their life experiences will be part of that formation.

Life with God for Children is moldable to the child. There are portions for nearly every kind of learner, there are options, and there are developmental levels. It can be changed, and it should be changed to meet the needs of the children we teach. We are teaching children, not curriculum.

The second thing I was looking for in a curriculum was an experience with God. Children are constantly being taught. We teach them new words, we teach them to brush their teeth and make their beds. At school they learn math, reading, and science. The kind of direct teaching we do makes them passive participants and the learning experiences never really become their own. When we employ these methods in Christian formation, we are risking inoculating children against the very abundant life we want them to have. This is not the best way to learn, this is not the way that sustains or the way God teaches us.

Like adults, children need an experience with God.  Life with God for Children makes the space for children to have an experience with God. Children are often asked to listen to God, and act on what God says to them. The space is made for them to experience God in the twelve classic spiritual disciplines woven into everyday life.

The story goes that as we got down to publication time we were stuck for a title.

Stepping Stones? No, it was already used.

Kids Life? No, I like the respectability of the word “Children.”

Toe Jam? I loved it, but couldn’t convince anyone else. Respectability left the building.

So we settled on Life with God for Children. But frankly it still isn’t perfect. If we are “doing” this curriculum for children and are not engaging in life with God ourselves it’s not going to fly. Children can spot a fake at fifty paces; and in addition we, adults, are missing out on the very life Jesus came to bring us. It is like trying to serve a gourmet dinner and refusing to taste it. The guests are going to think something is fishy. As a result it is designed with a section for the spiritual formation of the adult. 

Life with God for Children could have been called With Squared. It is spiritual formation material for children and their adults. It is food for a life with God with children. We are co-pilgrims with these folks who teach us patience and kindness and childlike abandon to the Father. They are good at it, and we have much to learn.

Life with God for Children, for God’s children, the young and the old. 

The Discipline of Wandering

Summer affords me the easy rhythms of wondering and wandering. Here in Colorado we’ve had loads of rain- so these days I’m wandering hip deep in clover. Pulling it up out of my garden and wandering it over to grateful goats and one stubborn horse.

Most mornings I wander out the kitchen door, to sit on the deck and watch the cat wander herself into my lap. After a while I wander over to a spot gone wild from neglect and rummage around for a few asparagus shoots.

Sometimes I wander alone, other times I wander with my kids. They lead; I follow.

We wander in search of spring’s new flower. We wander abandoning our sight and leaning heavily on sound in search of baby blue birds, the percussion of grass gone to seed and the syncopated cicada.

Wandering, by most accounts is aimless. The idea that anything in the Christian life is aimless might trigger some push back. I mean for crying out loud, this is a purpose driven life.

For just a minute, hold the trigger and ask yourself…

Just what would happen if I release my aim?

What would happen if I release my goal?

What would happen if I release the rat in the rat race?

In my wandering this summer, I am doing just that. Know what’s happening?

Grace. Rest. Wandering in the space of be-ing.

Hard as hell[1] for a driven person to refuse to drive. Requires the discipline of wandering.

What would it look like for you to submit to the Great Wanderer? He’s a pretty good guide.

Try wandering outside, leave your watch in the house, bring a child.


[1] I do not use this phrase glibly. Hell is hard. Like driving a stake in cement, like pounding our heads on brick walls. Heaven, however, is a bit like wandering into a pasture gone wild looking for asparagus shoots.

Fasting

Fasting: Giving up something on purpose so we can hear God better

Some ideas for practicing:

  • We never encourage children to fast from food; it goes without saying that children are growing and need the nutrients. However they can give up desserts, sweets, video games, TV, etc.
  • During Advent and Lent, invite your family into a reflective time asking the question: What “thing” is keeping me from hearing God clearly? Or What “thing” do I love more than God? Give that “thing” up during these seasons.

Learn more about fasting.

Study

Study: Learning about God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit

Some ideas for practicing:

  • On the first day of each new earth season, go on a nature walk, collecting items like leaves, rocks, flowers, dirt, feathers (in our case we collected animal poo). Bring them back and look up information about them.
  • Engage your family in a reading of the Gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke or John) using your imagination. After reading a passage invite people to answer: What did you see? What did you hear? What did you smell? What did you hear? What did you feel? And lastly, what did the Holy Spirit teach you?

Learn more about study.

Prayer

Prayer: Talking with God

Some ideas for practicing:

  • Create an atmosphere in your home where talking to God out loud is welcome, by talking out loud to God yourself.
  • While prayer is talking with God, any good conversation involves listening as well. Many families pray at meals; try starting those prayer times with a minute of silent listening. Extend an invitation during the meal for people to share what they heard God saying.
  • Memorize the Lord’s Prayer together as a family. Pray it each morning before people bound off to their days. Or invite the whole family to help rewrite the Lord ’s Prayer specifically for your family, and pray it daily.

Learn more about prayer.

Meditation

Meditation: Focusing our minds on God and his words to us

Some ideas for practicing:

  • First, I think we have to say that technology is often the enemy of meditation, for the simple fact that it keeps our monkey-minds running. Meditation slows the mind down to a walk and even gives it the chance to sit still. In our culture this takes some practice. Try laying out in the yard staring up at the clouds and use your imagination to find pictures.

  • Watch some ants, notice where they have been, where they are going.

  • Read Luke 12:22-24 aloud. Then go outside and actually consider the flowers and the birds.